Acharya Anuj Jain Astrologer

How to remain cool, neutralize or win over an Argument in your favour by Acharya Anuj Jain

Willingly or unwillingly if you ever had any hot argument and have repent later, this step by step mind training, for sure can turn you out a winner next time. There is a basic difference among presentation, debate, argument, dispute, disagreement, protest and fights. They all are different according to time, space, frame of mind and beliefs. Be it any of the above situation, your right of expression is always in your control and how you feel and let feel, act or react is your success key. A single key turn right can unlock and left lock the door. In the 21st century Darwin law of existence which advocates survival of the fittest has changed its arena from muscle to mind. Arguments mostly arises from two different stand point of view considering each one right, justified, accurate than other. So the first step to win a argument is to understand that as you are confident, sure about your stance, so is the other part. As you are in a particular circumstance, situation, mind, action and response, so is the other part. As your side, opinion, beliefs are unknown, misunderstood, misinterpreted by other, same is with you. The art of acceptance that there is an equal part outside you will make you halt for a moment. This thin moment consideration will make you strong enough to look at both side of the coin. Argument reminds me of lady justice holding a balance. Both sides trying to pull themselves up or down without consideration that their act is suffice enough to create reaction of other side. So the next step is to try and evaluate the argument without being prejudice. There is a fear inside that if we accept or surrender, we will lose, defeated or go down. Rather it is the other way round. As soon as you cool down, become normal or natural the opposing force from your side vanishes and you become so flexible that the action from other part enters and exists from you without any harm. This is just like a martial art skill. The master instead of holding the attack. accept it and let it pass out from its body without any harm. So listen to the other part, accept that it is acting under its own limitation, calm down and let it pass. Most of the arguments are only because people with whom you are in argument wants you to hear them first. In fact they are prejudiced of not being heard or noticed in their life. Subconsciously they are annoyed of their inner mind chatter. There are so many inner thoughts, ambitions, burdens, liabilities, frustrations in life that they start attracting or demanding focus at the first opportunity. You can use this human behaviour or weakness for your benefit. Meanwhile instead of arguing, yelling, flowing, being victim of the situation you can use your time to plan your stance cool headed. You don't have to agree with their side but allow them to open and show their strength and weakness. This cool understanding will give you a way, method, proper technique to present your side with all necessary preparations and emerge as a winner. What else you want if you got the opportunity to Now comes the times when...... Watch out the video for further steps and resolution....how step by step by take over the situation and become a winner in an unwanted debate, rage. difference in opinion.